The key to wholeness is discovering who you truly are at present by accepting yourself exactly as you are. This involves the courage to be imperfect as you launch yourself fully into the stream of life. But it doesn’t mean you will fail to improve or change. The curious paradox is that when you accept yourself just as you are, then you can change.
How Shame Speaks (you can refute it)
Much of our anxiety and depression emanate from two shame-based sentences.
The first sentence is: I made a mistake or got it wrong. That’s guilt.
The second sentence is: There’s something wrong with me. That’s shame.
If you were to stop at the first question and admit the mistake, the crisis would only represent an error to correct. It’s the second sentence that does the damage. The Prescription: Be mindful of the second sentence shame uses and refute it.
Dr. Brene Brown on Shame
In the most viewed TED Talk of all time, Brene Brown shares her research on shame and what heals it.
Take the Fragmentation Test
Take the Fragmentation Test and periodically review your results to increase your awareness of the pattern of shame that’s holding you back.
Your Worth Is Unconditional
There are no prerequisites to your self-worth or belonging. Your worthiness and belonging are inherent, meaning the fact of it is always true. The self-condemnation that shame imposes blocks you in experiencing your worth as a human being. Therefore, the primary challenge of being whole is accepting yourself completely, exactly as you are, and from self-acceptance asserting your worth.
Take the Whole Person Inventory
Identify the self-actualizing qualities you want to develop.
Self-Compassion Meditation for Self-Doubt
Listen to the self-compassion guided process, below.
Listen to the self-forgiveness guided process, below.